Nigerian singer turned pastor, Banky W and his wife, Adesua, an actor, have shared the mind blowing testimony of how they lost a set of twins, went through failed IVF processes, waited endlessly for a child until they got blessed with their baby boy, Zaiah in January 2021.
The new parents shared their amazing testimony at the Waterbrook church on Sunday, April 4.
Adesua while telling their story of triumph, said they got married in 2017 and wanted to quickly have their kids. However, that didn’t happen as the babies weren’t forthcoming.
”We got married in 2017 after Banky had disturbed my life and I was like okay, let’s marry.
We had planned our lives out and we were like this is what is going to happen, we would be so busy so we might as well get the children out of the way. Lets do it now and just let it come through. And then nothing happened.
…I remember having a conversation with Banky, and I was like, lets go do IVF. Banky was like calm down, it hasn’t even been a year. Give it a year.
A year came. When it was 11 months and a couple of days, I was like hey, how far? It’s been a year. Let’s go try IVF. And we prayed about it. We did pray and by the grace of God we got pregnant with twins”
Adesua said in the initial year of their marriage it was a monthly cycle of disappointment as she was anxious to miss her period and get pregnant. She also mentioned that she experienced severe trolling from people online who consistently told her to go and get pregnant.
”It was like a monthly disappointment and anyone would tell you that when you want a child, even one month or two months seem like such a long time talkless of people that have waited for years and years. So, it was constant disappointment and trying to stay in the place of faith and knowing that you serve a God that doesn’t lie and knowing that you serve a God that can do it but for some reason, he is just really kind of slow in your opinion.
“We got pregnant with our son after two and a half years and I can tell you that every single day of those two and a half years, someone trolled me… everyday. I couldn’t have an opinion without someone say ‘go and born’. I couldn’t say anything without someone say ‘get out… go and have a child, you are barren, you did something with your womb. I heard all sorts”
She celebrated women who have gone through IVF and said that she went through the process so much that she now has dead veins in her hands because they are so traumatized and can’t bring out blood anymore.
”So we got pregnant with twins and we had gone for the scan and we had seen the heartbeats. During a routine checkup, we went back to the hospital to have a scan and I just saw the doctor’s face.
“You know when something is wrong, sometimes you can tell. She was scanning and I was like what is wrong and she was like oh no nothing. And I looked at the nurse’s face and she looked a bit funny two and I was like what’s wrong? She was like Adesua, I am looking for the heartbeat. And I said for two of them? And she said yes.
“I started laughing because it didn’t make any sense to me. And so I went home and I remember being in our living room, I literally collapsed on the floor and I wailed. Wailing is not the same thing as crying. Wailing is a deep groaning in your chest”
Adesua said she and Banky decided over the weekend after the scan to pray to God since nothing is impossible with him. They went back to the hospital believing that God would come through.